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The Ten New Laws of
Love
At the Heart of Our Teachings: Ten natural "new"
laws
of love -- perhaps the most powerful breakup-prevention program available
today. We hope they move you by what is truly possible, and inspire you to begin
creating your own NewCouple.
Chemistry: The First New Law of Love
Chemistry is the
magic, the special energies that signal partners possess the raw material for
success. Chemistry is not optional because it provides the synergy couples need
to get through the rapids of relationship -- and keep them high on course to
their grandest goals.
Priority: The Second New Law of Love
Priority is a
couple's commitment to keep the health of their relationship front and central.
It asks partners to begin to psychologically "leave the nest" of their first
families -- and to address any compulsions and addictions, including
codependence -- in order to be fully available to their second family.
Emotional Integrity: The Third New Law of
Love
Emotional Integrity asks partners to create an "emotional safe zone"
with each other. They do this by taking responsibility for their feelings --
especially by learning the difference between "acting them out" and expressing
them healthily. This law also guides partners in identifying and healing blind
spots and "buttons" that cause disharmony in all relationships.
Deep Listening: The Fourth New Law of Love
Deep
Listening is the greatest act of love -- and a skill. It is partners' ability to
hear each other's words, and the feelings underneath, with compassion and
empathy.
Equality: The Fifth New Law of Love
Equality is about
fairness and respect. It involves acknowledging power imbalances in the
relationship and helps partners see through the tyranny of unnegotiated -- and
often antiquated -- roles, responsibilities and unconscious expectations.
Peacemaking: The Sixth New Law of Love
Peacemaking is
a couple's commitment to maintain their emotional safe zone through the use of
anger management and conflict resolution tools and New Couple agreements.
Self-Love: The Seventh New Law of Love
Relationship
landmines are precise gauges of pockets of low self-love and unfinished
emotional business from childhood. This law teaches partners how to deeply
defuse conflict and fall back in love with everyone.
Mission in Life: The Eighth New Law of Love
This law
teaches that true love cannot be sustained until both parties are on some level
engaged in his or her own true work. Mission in Life is partners' commitment to
the fulfillment of their own and the other's life purpose. Intimates are either
a mission's most powerful support or its most formidable saboteur.
Walking: The Ninth New Law of Love
Walking involves
addressing the primary insecurities that plague all partners, because emotional
and financial dependencies can mean slow death -- of respect, trust and passion.
When intimates are willing and able to leave the relationship if need be, it's
their best insurance that they won't!
Transformational Education: The Tenth New Law of
Love
Transformational Education is the fail-safe mechanism of the Ten New
Laws of Love. It represents partners' commitment to do whatever learning and
healing is necessary if they get stuck on any of the first nine
laws.
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